Pretty vs. Hot

Have you ever read an Olivia book? I just love her. She is smart, spunky, and mischievous without really meaning to be. 

This year I have been faced with the dilemma of WHAT TO BE for Halloween. I decided I would be Olivia. Perfect. I am a school teacher. Olivia is sort of just like me but I am grown up. She is what I would call precocious. P.S. My red dress DOES come down to my knees.

So I have been gathering my costume items and am pretty tickled pink about the whole thing if you ask me. I seem to gravitate towards the pigs for some reason for a few years ago I was Miss Piggy. Last year, I was Katniss Everdeen from the Hunger games, mostly because it was easy. 

I was invited to a Halloween party by a dear friend of mine. This Halloween party is pretty huge and everyone who is in their 30's and single KNOWS that this is THE party of the year. It is the place to SEE and BE SEEN. So I was talking to my friend over the phone and he asked me what I was going to be? I said, Olivia the Pig. I could hear him chuckling over the phone. 

"What? YOU CANNOT DRESS UP AS A PIG?" 

Why, I said dejectedly. "Because. I won't let you." I told him I went to a party two years ago or so and I dressed up as Miss Piggy. He laughed at me.

I said this:

Back to the drawing board, but I have a good idea..

Here is the other thing about these Halloween parties. Some women, use it as a time to dress as scantily clad as possible. It is a little embarrassing to me. Not that I am embarrassed of myself but, I am embarrassed for them because they have succumb to the misguided notion that it is better to be HOT. I mean sure, I guess it could be nice to be looked at as hot. But is it? I know we could all get into the debate. It has been debated and debated and each side has made good points about swimsuits, Miley Cyrus, pornography, how men view women..etc...etc....etc....But when it comes down to it, REALLY comes down to it, the point is these women know better. They just do, because most of them have made certain promises to live a certain way and that includes modesty. 

Let's take Miley Cyrus for instance. Most of us have seen her on that award show, how could you miss it? Now, most of us have seen her totally naked swinging around on a wrecking ball. This is a young woman who has been a roll model for SO many of our girls. Unfortunately, right now she is modeling objectifying women. When I see her my heart aches for her, she is someones daughter, she is Heavenly Father's daughter. She will be someones Mother and Grandmother. It isn't too hard to see her future, she is so desperate for attention to be #1, the STAR she will go to any length to get that shock factor. The sad thing is the music industry will egg her on, eat her up and within a few years spit her out. Then what? That is when she will REALLY have to ask the question WHO am I? She thinks she is proving a point now, that she isn't a child anymore? Just wait Miley, just wait till you are headed to 40 and you are REALLY asking yourself who you are. 

My point is, the game doesn't change. It just doesn't. The wheel isn't reinvented the same tactics that are used for Miley are used at the over 30 Halloween party. Satan has a great game plan, it works EVERY time and it has for centuries..so....the question is when are WE going to say I AM DONE, not going to do that. That is where the real power lies. In the ability to dress inappropriately but choosing not too. It is when we as women say, I am happy enough with myself to be pretty. 

A friend of mine sent me this in a text. He then said, thank you for being one of the pretty girls.

Why You Don't Want To Be Hot

1 - They're more into themselves than you. Any girl that spends most of her time focusing on how she looks and comes off, is not going to have much left over to devote to you.

2 - They encourage others to hit on them. Hot girls just by their nature cause other guys to hit on them. Not the best thing if you're in a relationship and aren't all that into fighting off all those other guys.

3 - They requite too much maintenance. Hot girls require a lot of attention; from you, and pretty much everyone else. They need constant reassurance that their still hot and better than all the other girls. In short, they'll tire you out with their needs.

4 - They make others wonder about you. If you are someone who is with a hot girl, others will wonder if you have any depth, if you're vain or don't really care about anything but how a girl looks.

5 - They'll dump you if someone better comes along. Hot girls want to be with hot guys. If they think someone is hotter than you, then they'll dump
you so fast you'll never even know
you ever had her.

6 -
They'll break your heart and wound your pride. They will. They surely will. They'll flirt with other guys, or cheat on you. They'll dump you eventually if you get older, run out of money or begin to lose patience with them.

7 - They'll cost too much. Hot girls requite a lot of things to maintain their hotness. Rarely are the able to afford all the these things, so they will expect their man to foot the bill for clothes, make-up, surgery, etc.

8 - They'll annoy you. Hot girls don't think about much other than how they look and how others see them. That doesn't leave much to talk with them about. Plus, their constant neediness will get on your nerves.

9 - They are too shallow. You just can't get around the fact that anyone that spends most of their time, thoughts and energy on how they look and how others see them, just isn't going to be all that deep. It might be
nice for awhile to just look at your hot girl, but eventually you're going to want to actually have a conversation or do
something that doesn't lead to public approval of
how she or the two of you look together.

10 - They won't ever truly love you. Hot girls love attention, compliments and their own image. This of course leaves very little of their hearts for loving anyone that isn't them. Thus, she will never be able to really love you.

These top ten reasons on why guys should avoid hot girls is for all those guys out there that are so mesmerized by how hot girls look that they might overlook how life with these girls might be. If you are such guy, I hope these reasons on why you should rethink your goals, help you to see that maybe you should look for a different kind of girl. Good luck.

This is just one of the things that I think about, the swirling thoughts about life and where I fit into it. I may be a little more passionate about the objectifying of women than your usual gal. I have been an object, treated like an object and let me tell you it is NOT what our Heavenly Father wants for his daughters. It is a confusing, dark and depressing place to be. Let us be the kind of women who love freely, who hold intelligent conversations, who build up others, who speak softly and kindly, who are valued by our friends, who are the KIND of friend to others that are of VALUE, who are happy and laugh freely. That is what a pretty girl does and is, she sees her worth is more than being the HOTTEST at the over 30 party or that naked girl swinging around on a wrecking ball. 

Let us be pretty. XOXO The Sunny D